Monday, October 24, 2016

From the memoir of an ex-AMEP student

I was in my early twenties when I first came to live in Australia, now many years ago.  But I will never forget the awkwardness I always felt because of my broken English.  Not understanding what people said, wrongly answering questions, asking for repetition and feeling stupid because I still couldn't get it, laughing at jokes I didn't understand ... these were all embarrassing experiences.

I vividly remember many situations where I felt really awkward.  For example when I rang up to apply for a job and they asked me for my "phone number" to call me back.  All I could hear was "file number" which I insisted I didn't have!  Well, that was one job I wasn't meant to get!

On another occasion I was invited by an Australian family for "tea" around 6 pm at their home.  This is usually the time we have a cup of tea after dinner in the country I come from.  So I had dinner before I went to see them to find that they had a dinner meal prepared.  I was too embarrassed to tell them I'd already eaten so I pushed down my second dinner in order to be polite and let my stomach suffer for it.  I knew the hard way that 'tea' meant 'dinner' not a 'cup of tea' and that 6 pm is when people have their big meal in Australia.

Looking back, these were awkward moments at the time but I can laugh at them now.  You will too!

  • Have you had an embarrassing situation because of your English?
  • What is the hardest thing to understand?
  • What do you do when you don't quite understand and how does this make you feel?
  • Do you agree that laughing at yourself is a good way to deal with embarrassment?
  • Are there any idioms or expressions that you learnt the hard way? 
Please share your thoughts here.

14 comments:

  1. I had a similar experience too and I felt embarrassed but I just laughed. So, don't worry if you make mistakes because it's a part of the learning process.

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  2. I had a lot of embarrassing situations as a new Australian, I used to say to my classmates "me play you" but they looked at me and laughed, eventually I found someone to play with who didn't laugh at me. This was part of the reason I became an English teacher.

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    1. You have wonderful experience and understanding to share with your students Corinne, thanks for your thoughtful comments.

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  3. This is a very practical but hilarious blog story. I think all of us can identify with the story. Thanks for sharing it with all of us.

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  4. My favourite story is about someone who was asked to 'bring a plate'. She felt sorry for the host who did not have enough plates, so she bought several new ones to give as a gift. When she arrived and saw what other guests had brought, she realized that 'bring a plate' meant to bring a plate full of food to share. I can imagine how she felt.

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    1. I understand about your situation because it happened to me before. I misunderstood about "bring a plate'. Luckily my husband told me 'bring a plate means bring food....that fixed it.

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    2. It's a very common mistake, Supha, and can happen to anyone - an English teacher friend of my mine from the UK did exactly the same thing as Wendy described above - he took a plate with no food on it, to a friend's BBQ! Everyone certainly had a good laugh.

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  5. Ah, the 'bring a plate' trap! How many migrants have made that very understandable mistake!

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  6. I had similar experiences: misunderstanding idiomatic expressions, misusing some vocabulary and feeling bad for not understanding jokes. We all can fix them up sooner or later. Cheer up!

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    1. Hi Ian, thank you for the encouraging sharing and comment. Keep your good work!

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  8. This story is very practical and can happen to anyone.I enjoyed it a lot.

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  9. Congratulations Ross! You are very lucky. It doesn't happen with everyone. I never won anything but I positive that one day I win.

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